A One Size Fits All Approach….NO!!!!

I belong to several groups. I love community. I think it is important to have a tribe, people who will cheer you on, keep you going when you want to quit, and hold you accountable.

I have found there are some people and groups out there that have a one size fits all approach. They spew things like “just eat more butter,” or “just eat meat until you are Thanksgiving stuffed.” I’m not here to say this approach might not work for you or for someone. But I can guarantee you it will not work for the majority.

Just think, if this were the answer, eat more butter/eat more meat, we would have no need for doctors, carnivore groups, carnivore coaches, functional medicine practitioners and the list goes on because we would be healed already by just eating meat and butter. For most of us that is not enough.

The really sad thing is so many of us, including myself, came to carnivore out of desperation to find a cure for what ails us. We were sick, struggling and had tried everything. In that desperation we tend to listen to anything said and try anything they suggest.

There has never been nor will there ever be a one size fits all approach to health, healing or weight loss. Weight loss comes as a result of a health body and a healthy body looks different for everyone. How you came to unhealthy MATTERS! We all came to be unhealthy in different ways. What our mothers ate while we were in the womb matters; how they fed us when we were growing up matters; what vaccinations we have had, what food we have eaten, what environmental toxins we have been exposed to, OUR ENTIRE LIFE SITUATION MATTERS. So, if all that is true, and believe me it is, how can a simple statement like just eat meat and butter be the fix for everyone?

What I love to hear in these carnivore communities and group is the simple phrase “it depends.” Because it really does depend on your life and situation.

The other thing about community and groups is they are supposed to be friendly, supportive, informational, and ETHICAL. You should be able to ask any question, tell your story honestly, talk about your issues honestly, and get honest answers for you. If you are in a group and you feel like you can’t be honest, or if you believe if you say, “I eat meat AND FRUIT,” they are going to demonize you…. RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN! Just leave. There are plenty of groups and communities where you as an individual will be welcome. Don’t stay in the stress and condemnation of a group … just leave.

And here is something else to remember. Our body/mind will send us red flags when something is not right. Listen to your red flags.

One last thing … Do your own research! A lot of what you hear is not based in science or common sense. There are a lot of resources out there to help you determine what is right for you. Be your own advocate, be your own friend, be your own accountability.


Every day we are overwhelmed with cues and triggers that influence the way we eat and how much we eat.  There can be so many reasons for this that have nothing to do with satisfying our physiological needs.  Once we become aware and figure out what our personal triggers are, you can begin to manage these cues and triggers and eventually with practice and patience, overcome them.

SOCIAL CUES: When your social environment triggers you to behave a certain way.    

EXTERNAL CUES:  External environmental stimulants which encourage you to eat.      

INTERNAL CUES:  Patterns of thought, emotions or some underlying psychological issue that motivates you to eat on an impulse.



•When you are around certain friends or family

•At social events or parties

•Conducting business over a meal

•When a person is urging you to eat a certain food  


•The sight or smell of food

•By specifics foods

•At particular places

•Engaged in certain activities

•At a certain time or times of day   


•When you are feeling sad, angry or upset

•When you are tired

•When you are feeling ill or physical discomfort

•After an argument


SOCIAL CUES:  Have a plan! If you can’t avoid a social event, you need to have a plan so you can stay on track.


•Eat before you go

•Take food with you

•Look at the menu ahead of time


•Just say “No thank you”

•You may have to say it more than once

•Or say, “I’m taking more control over what I eat.”


Break the pattern of distracted eating! If you tend to eat while watching tv or scrolling on your phone, you are not really paying attention to what you are putting in your mouth.

Mindless eating leads to overeating and makes your food less satisfying.

Use the “Out of Sight Out of Mind” Strategy!  This can be extremely helpful.  Changing your environment to support your new habits can keep you on the right path.     

Be Aware! Keep a journal of your emotion to become more self-aware.  When you think you are hungry ask yourself “Am I? Or did I have a hard day, am I angry, or did I just have an argument.” 


Develop Positive Self Talk! What you think directly affects our behaviors.  You need to think positively about your weight loss/healing journey. Write down your goals, your reasons why and your successes along the way, refer to them often to stay focused on what you want

When a self-defeating thought creeps into your mind, refer to your why, your goals, and your successes to remind yourself you are capable of success.


1.  DELAY:  When you have the urge to indulge, tell yourself you can have it tomorrow.  You may have to do this more than one day, but eventually the urge will go away.  This will help provide you time to no longer be inclined to emotionally eat.

2. DISTRACT:  Find something else to do.  A hobby or something else that pleases you that does not include food.

3.  DISTANCE:   Put some distance between you and the food you are craving.  Take a walk, go in the other room, go for a drive.  Just get yourself away from the food you are craving.  You can also keep distance from the foods you crave by not having them in the house.  Keep them in the store where they belong.

4. DETERMINE:  Determine how giving into this craving and eating this food will make you feel.  Will you be sick, will you have to take up residence for a while in the bathroom, will it zap your energy for the next day.

5. DECIDE:  If you decide to indulge and give into your craving, do it mindfully.  Decide how much, where and how fast you will eat it.  Then eat it and move on.  You don’t need to beat yourself up about eating it.  That is just going to cause a stress response which will most likely cause you to continue to crave it and over eat.  Just make the decision and be done with it.